One of my favorite books is “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff, and It’s All Small Stuff.” If you haven’t read it, do yourself a favor and try to find a copy. The title says so much.
All too often in life we find ourselves fearful of things that never happen. Most of what we worry about will never come to fruition. The question then would be, “Why stress?”
What do we gain from stress? The negative effects of stress on the body are well-known. Research shows that psychological stress causes a multitude of physical ailments. Reading this piece from the Mayo Clinic touches on the effects of stress.
If we aren’t getting a physical benefit from stress there must be another need we are meeting. I’ve learned in my own life, that if I can determine what need I’m meeting with my worry or some other negative emotion, I am able to make the necessary change to grow and meet my needs in a higher quality way.
Focus on something in your life that causes you stress. What do you get from that situation? Does what you are worrying about get you the love and attention you want from someone? That someone could even be you. Maybe what you are stressed about allows you to feel accepting of yourself.
Are you feeling bored and using this to add variety to your life? We all need variety in our lives and although we don’t look at stress as something that may be used when we are bored, it is a very real way to add variety to your life.
Maybe what you are stressed about gives you a sense of safety and certainty. We have times when worry is the only thing that seems to give us a feeling of control.
In the grand scheme of life, it is important to realize that are few things worth stressing over. This moment is all any of us have, are you spending it in a way that makes you happy, adds to the happiness of those around you, and serves a greater good? If you answered yes, congratulations, you are one of the few. If you answered no, or you’re not sure, this is an opportunity for growth and change. What will you do with it?